
Inviting a declutterer into your home can stir up a range of psychological feelings. Here are a few common ones:
Anxiety
You might feel anxious about someone seeing your personal space in a state of disarray. This anxiety can stem from a fear of judgment or the unknown. It is perfectly normal to be anxious about the 'what if'. My promise to you is: I do not judge. In fact I think it's amazing that you are letting me in your home.
Vulnerability
Allowing someone into your home means exposing a part of yourself and your life that you might normally keep private. This can make you feel vulnerable. Again, it's normal. I therefore use my coaching skills to work at your pace and make it a comfortable environment where you are free to open up as much or as little as you want.
Shame or Embarrassment
It's common to feel embarrassed about the clutter, worrying that it reflects poorly on you as a person. Remember, declutterers are professionals who have seen a wide range of situations and are there to help, not to judge. I'd also say that most people have some clutter and it's natural to be this way. It is hard to declutter and therefore I totally understand the reason it can be put off.
Fear of Loss
Decluttering often involves parting with items that hold sentimental value. The fear of losing these items can be quite strong. We will work at your pace and it will be your decision on what you decide to let go of. I encourage clients to have an overall goal and we will keep that in mind when facing any challenges.
Relief and Hope
On the positive side, you might also feel relief at the thought of getting help and hope for a more organised and peaceful living space. It's great if you are at this stage. This isn't everyone and therefore it's ok if you feeling anxious.
Empowerment
Successfully working with a declutterer and seeing progress can lead to feelings of empowerment and control over your environment. Decluttering, and standing back to see the difference that has made can give you an amazing sense of achievement. Once one goal has been achieved you are then motivated to sort out the next space.
Strategies to Cope:
Acknowledge Your Feelings:Â It's okay to feel anxious or vulnerable. Recognising these feelings is the first step in managing them.
Communicate:Â Talk to me about your concerns. I will be empathetic and respectful.
Set Boundaries: Let me know if there are certain areas or items you’re not ready to tackle yet.
Focus on the Benefits:Â Keep in mind the positive outcomes, like a more organised home and reduced stress.
Face to Face or Remote: As a qualified coach I can work with you in your home or remotely in a way that suits your needs.
The main message is it's okay to take it one step at a time and to tackle one small area at a time.
Why not give me a call for a FREE consultation so that together we can work at your pace.
Vicki
Organised and Proud
07867 786291
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