Embracing Freedom: Discovering the Permission to Let Go

Have you ever found yourself clinging to things you know you don’t really need anymore, just because it feels too tough to let them go? You’re definitely not alone! Many people find that decluttering comes with a hefty dose of guilt and second-guessing—wondering, “Am I making the right choice?” For some, it’s such a big decision that it’s easier to wait for someone else to give them the green light to let those items go.

So, why do we feel this way?

The Emotional Attachments

It’s natural for us to collect things as we journey through life. Some items are gifts, while others are things we bought ourselves, and each of these possessions often brings back memories—whether it’s a favourite trip or a loved one who’s no longer with us. But, over time, our tastes can change, and I can totally relate to holding onto things I’ve been given that I’ve never liked, simply because I feel obligated to keep them. This emotional attachment runs deep; it’s not just about the items but the memories and relationships they represent. That makes the thought of letting go feel overwhelming and almost impossible. Do you ever worry that letting things go would be like betraying someone or the past?

The Need for External Validation

Having a trusted friend, family member, or even a professional organiser can provide that external reassurance we need. They can help quiet those nagging doubts and remind us that it’s perfectly okay not to keep everything. After all, our homes should be our sanctuaries, filled only with things that bring us joy. Knowing that someone agrees with our decision and then giving ourselves permission to let go not only frees up space for what we truly want but also clears mental clutter, allowing us to enjoy our homes even more.

One thought you might consider to help give yourself permission to let go is this:

• Would the person who gave you the item want you to keep it if you don’t really like it?

• Are their things turning your home into a museum of your relatives homes?

• Did you ever hear your relatives talk about an item in their homes and how they dealt with it?

• Did they have items (or do you do this) that only come out when a particular relative visits?

  
  

  Reflecting on these questions can help you see that letting go doesn’t mean you’re dismissing their memory—it’s about creating a space that truly reflects you.

The Benefits of Letting Go

Letting go of things has so many benefits! First off, it creates a more organised and peaceful living space, which can really boost your clarity and focus. Many people find that when their surroundings are decluttered, their minds feel clearer, leading to better decision-making and increased creativity. Plus, by parting with sentimental items, you’re opening the door for new experiences and opportunities. It’s all about making space for what truly matters—like new relationships, passions, and projects. For example, one of my clients wanted to start doing lots of crafting, and now she has the room in her home and the mental space to do just that! Letting go is a powerful way to move forward and embrace what’s next.

Conclusion

If you look around your room and feel happy with everything you've got, that’s fantastic! But if there’s something you’re not really fond of or don’t need anymore, why not try putting it away for a bit? Once it’s out of sight, see if you prefer the space without it. Did you miss it or think about it at all? If you don’t even notice it’s gone, that’s a good sign that your life would be just fine without it!